Julia Wrote:
Shane wrote:
But if they're presenting two characters in a gay relationship, then
they
_are_ writing about my lifestyle. I'm a gay man in a gay relationship.
By the same token, then, is every piece of het fic written about the lifestyle of every person who is in a het relationship? Should people in het relationships get upset every time they read a book in which some het couple does something that that reader would never do? "My husband and I never have sex outdoors...how *dare* that writer imply het couples do! It's just cheap masturbatory writing, it degrades me and all other hets."
Now that's an exaggeration. It's not the sex acts per se that I object to (although some of the rape stuff is just.... nasty), so much as the way gay couples in slash are often just straight couples rejigged, or pretty much denied. Like, for instance, to take your het analogy, if someone wrote a story in which you and your husband basically acted like gay men, just that one of you is a woman (I actually find Armistead Maupin does this a lot, and I don't like it when he does it either), or where you and your husband perpetually asserted that you are both "really" gay, you just like to have sex with each other.
Shane
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