Addressing Murray and Fiona: I'd say that Alternate Willow precisely displayed potentials within Willow, and that Willow is far more willing to express those potentials when they result in a loving relationship with another young woman than when they result in violence. Actually, I thought the development of the Willow/Tara relationship was very well handled, including Tara's being kind of dorky--an important part of growing up is having relationships with people your friends don't quite approve of and vice versa.
-(Y)